Degrees of self esteem.

Ever wondered how it would be like to work as a waiter at a fancy restaurant? I am sure none of us see the other side of the picture rather make conscious decisions completely on the basis of how we feel and how we perceive the world. 

I was sitting at a restaurant having my anniversary dinner with husband and suddenly I started looking around people who come in all shapes and sizes and depending upon what their pocket can afford, they choose the place to eat. I asked him ‘To what extent these waiters have to lower down their self esteem?’ to which he replied ‘Too much’ and then he added saying ‘This is the reason why we are supposed to pay them respect and be nice to them and not only this will make them happy but we will get good service in return’. I nodded and started looking around again. I felt miserable being treated so royally at that time. Although there is nothing wrong in spending when you can but i tried taking my self esteem to that level and I failed miserably. It isn’t an easy task to please complete strangers the entire day, asking them how they are, what would they like to eat, putting up with their insensitive behavior, cleaning up their tables and picking the empty dishes, getting harassed and sometimes even getting abused. 

The point to ponder is the fact that they are as equally human as we are. They are born the same way as we did. These mere differences of economic standards generally do not exist in reality rather self created. And think about it like this. These people are there to serve you not because they like having such economic standing but they need to earn bread and butter for their families. 

Similar is the case with our aircraft crew. Be it men or women. They have to approach every single passenger to assist them when they need help. Some passengers call them Just for the heck of it. Some passengers harass air hostesses and touch them inappropriately. Sometimes they have to hear ridiculous comments about themselves in terms of how they look and how they talk. Although they are the ones who make our Journey far more comfortable than we can imagine. Ever imagined how this makes them feel about themselves? 

I can quote tons of examples here including hospitality staff in hotels, helpers and ushers in conferences, salesmen and saleswomen, beggars, Children and adults selling stuff on bus stops and in traffic Jams and sweepers. There are many more people around who literally have to bring down their self esteem to such a level in order to make our lives comfortable. Do we know them? Do they know us? No. But they are doing a favor to you and they should be regarded for this. Don’t mistreat them. Don’t Judge them. Don’t yell at them. Respect is defined to be everyone’s possession rather than being gifted to chosen ones. 

Happy reading!



6 thoughts on “Degrees of self esteem.

  1. Ma’am I am a regular listener of ur taza dum show. Every morning while I drive from home to airport for duty FM 107 is ON. Although many a times I don’t agree ur views on a certain topic…yet the topics are very interesting.

    I have found this post of urs very touching and perhaps in the name of humanity atleast, we all shud be courteous in our replies to the people woh work in public dealings whether it be waiters or salesmen. We as customers do know it very well that we are not always right.

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